You may take the following measures if you are still certain that your boyfriend is texting other female friends:
- Find out whether he is telling the truth (or guilt).
- Consider how much you place your faith in his word.
- Consider if you will be able to forgive him if he is not innocent.
- Consult with common friends for guidance.
Resist the temptation to lash out at him.
Of course, there are situations in which you may be unsure if your boyfriend is messaging another woman or not. In these cases, you should consult with a professional. Despite the fact that you have no clue who he is messaging, you have a strong suspicion that it is another woman.
In situations like these, when you may be tempted to spy through your boyfriend’s contacts and text threads to check who he is messaging, you must maintain your composure and refrain from doing so. Monitoring your lover is not a good idea.
It implies that you are violating his privacy and that you do not have faith in him at all, according to him. You shouldn’t be digging around if he hasn’t done anything to earn your suspicions. And, as we previously mentioned, if he has earned your mistrust by being shady in the past, you may want to consider ending your relationship and finding someone who will not betray you in the future.
If, on the other hand, you are aware that your boyfriend still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend, you may want to engage in a serious conversation with him. Inform him that you are uncomfortable with the way things are going. If he is concerned about your connection, he will at the very least pay attention.
